I agree with what you have written about chemistry and long term relationships, however I suspect very few people come together because it is logical - it is always chemistry that brings you together, what keeps you together ..... I'm sure that is different for everyone. I object to your statment that men are programed to have sex with as many women as possible. Like all men are animals and not in control of their bodies. I know plenty of women that are not innocent or victims but instead they are the animal you describe. - just a guy

. Dear Author! It is great that your have got line- dating experience and finally met you future husband, HOWEVER - since this great experience still did not make you a relationship PRO, sorry! If you would have just share your sweet story and walk away, my respond to you have been much greater. Because learning and taking tips from the fairy tale story are much different from reading a bad advice. Please think why. Second, what make you think that your steps that once worked for you may now work for others? HMMM People are spending half of their life’s reading bad advises about relationships instead of having them. Now we know why

Not a complaint, really, but it is very frustrating when most of the men I see are in their 50's. That age is scary to me, too young, as I am nearly 68. It would make me wonder what these men would want with an "older lady". Just a comment.

I really liked what I read. It sounds workable to me. I'm going to try it. I do hope you're wrong about men wanting to have sex with as many women as possible. That statement makes me want to avoid going out on a date.

To #3 I would eat lunch at local cafes to meet men your age. Many men over 60 are not internet saavy, but they are lonely and have to eat, so they get out for lunch. Good luck!

Starting over after many, mnay years of marriage is difficult, if you're a widow like me. Dating has changed. Women today don't seem to like the old-fashion approach, like somone treating them well. Too many party girls out there. I've met a lot of them. Would love to meet an attractive woman of substance. Not sure there are many out there.

Exellent advice Kathryn! You are so right. You have to clearly know what you do, and don't, want before you can recognize "the one". It's really important to see yourself with the other as you would like it to be. This sets up an intention in your mind and heart which will draw you together most naturally. It's not so much the outer qualities that we need to look at, but the inner qualites of a person. This holds true for ourselves as well. Make sure you know yourself well. How do I move through my life? How do I express myself? What are my best qualities? What are my insecurities? Do I look to others to fufill me, or do I feel complete and satisfied as I am? When we know how to love ourselves and appreciate who we are, those around us will feel the same towards us. If you don't like what you see in the mirror of another, it's time to look inward at your own self-critic. When you feel good about yourself and your life, as it is, you will attract those who support that. No one can "make" us happy. Happiness is an inside job. Know yourself, love yourself, live your life fully, and be open to the possibilities for extreme happiness!

Good article, thank you. I have just started dating after losing my husband last year. I met a man that appeared to be everything I was looking for. The chemistry was wonderful, and the first few weeks were magic, but ......... when reality hit, he was not ready or willing to be part of the realtionship his profile said he was looking for. I am greatful that this realization came early for us, and not later. I had a good marriage, and I am ready and capable to committ to another relationship because of it. I know what I want and need, and what I am capable of giving to my future partner, and I am not going to settle for less. The best thing that came from meeting this man is that I know I am capable of being attracted to and falling in love with another man, and I will know the difference between a frog and my prince.

Well, I am so hoping there is a man of substance out there. I believe in romance and chemistry, too, but it boils down to character. Older men certainly have different criteria as do older women. I am amazed at the compromises women make for being with a man. I'm holding out for the best man possible who is not a player or a .

Starting all over after being married is diffucult. Especially as one gets older, men are looking for younger women. Chemistry is very important in a relationship.And trust. Im holding out for that special someone, who is not a player.