While I admire and appreciate Kathryn Lord's New-Age comments regarding who should make the first move, I am a firm believer that it is, essentially, our primitive instincts that take charge. Therefore, men will always be the hunters and gatherers and women the hunted.

Instincts often drive our actions but the Internet interface isolates us from direct contact situations where instinct drives response. It is flattering to be "noticed" regardless of gender.

I agree that women are always the hunted. But internet makes man have no clue to find out about women, so as a woman, she should start it first to encourage him to find out about her.

I agree that women are always the hunted. But internet makes man have no clue to find out about women, so as a woman, she should start it first to encourage him to find out about her.

I have tried following the "Rules", and for me it hasn't been any more successful than not following them. I'm 65, and have had better luck with younger gentlemen than those around my own age.

I have no problem with making the first move. Moreover, I prefer to make it - then I am the one who is choosing and I want only the best. My chances are much higher if I am pro-active. Finding a good match is as hard as getting a good education or a good job. Why we are not afraid of being proactive in these areas and expect things just to "happen" when it goes about our personal life? Natalia Natalia

I think the initial meeting on here is good because you can screen in a way that you could never do at a bar or club. So regardless of who initiates I think if there is a response back that shows there is a mutual interest , if there is no response you just move on. But I do think that you should meet as soon as possible or talk on the phone to really get a sense of their personality that way you don't start filling in the blanks with our notions of that perfect someone. At some point you have to become real otherwise you are just excited about the idea that this person could be the one.

When it comes to online, if you do not express interest you miss the chance to be seen. I can't understand why anyone would be shy online to send a quick e-mail or hello because the worst that can happen there isn't any response back! There are plenty of fish in the sea. I do like the online dating because you can get a feel of the inside scoop of the person, get right to the core and really target the people you are looking for in your profile. Some things that you wouldn't directly say in person when initally meeting someone, you say on your profile, therefore increasing your chances to make a more meaningful connection, or a fling!! LOL Depending on what you want. Ladies, there is nothing wrong with making an interest, but ultimately let the guy take the lead once he does respond.

Men may chase, but women choose. The reality is the women are the hunters. Men just have to do all the hard work.

I wish I read this Like a year ago. Thanks.