I'm okay with shoes being bad but no hygiene. I one od those people that notice a man's teeth first.

If I dated a man for the shoes he was wearing, I'd obviously either be a gold-digger or the most shallow, superficial woman in the world. Where do you get this stuff?

Wow its a good thing I don't believe everything I read.

Obviously this is an absurd personal preference of yours and screams - SHALLOW, SUPERFICIAL FEMALE. Ever heard the saying "Don't judge a book by it's cover"? You may want to actually engage in some meaningful conversation to get some insight into what he's really like b4 writing your date off based on his choice of shoes. And pray he does'nt rate your character based solely on some article of clothing you're wearing.

I thought women enjoy the challenge of "fixing" men? Isn't clothing/shoes part of this?

Some people (men and women) don't neccesarily have a sense of style. To him maybe he thought those are his dress shoes because obviously they always had been.

Sorry guys. weak article . good point. I met a guy whose looks and clothes were ok, but the shoes, OH NO. Another time I saw a man dressed at the theater in after-5 clothes, but his shoes looked as though he had walked thru a dust bowl, OH NO. Bad shoes are a reflection of how much the person cares about himself. The shoes could be from Payless, but they should be in decent shape and shined. C'mon, even you guys make fun of guys who wear black shoes with white socks. what about the girl you met met with chipped toenail polish?

We r not talking about Armani shoes, fellas. on a first date mangled flip-flops or tennis shoes that were once white, will not impress unless u r going to a beach party. The men I know are quite aware of this shoe thing. They r ok with it. Get a bunch of guys together talking about what women wear and 1 will chime in about a sexily dressed woman looking good until he got down to the $100 hi-heel sandals and chipped nail polish on her toes. then all of the guys start laughing telling tales of the mising pedicures.

i'll admit i'm wondering if he has any sense how I might feel. He may just NOT looked prepared for the the date. probably arrived late too, also.

This article is right on. No, dear male readers, it is not superficial. It's honest. It's as honest as the preferences men have about women. Men expect magazine-perfect women, while crusing in filthy sweats, pants falling off their butts, horrid socks, disgusting shoes, bad breath, crud in their teeth, body odor, and foul language, while making excuses for laziness. It doesn't work that way. Grooming is MAJOR if you want to attract a lady, particularly one worth having. Bathe, shave, brush those teeth (!), clean clothing, manicure (pedicure!), and (yes) nice shoes. Like attracts like. You feel it's okay to be a slob, you can't complain when that's all you attract. Think seriously about it. If you can't put forth a little effort, you won't get much in return. You get what you give.